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Author Gary Chapman introduced the world to love languages in 1992 when he published his book The 5 Love Languages庐: The Secret to Love that Lasts. The languages help readers find the way in which they perceive and express love, which can benefit all relationships.

While we often equate love with romance, Chapman says that his 鈥�5 distinct love languages鈥� are actually about good communication. Understanding how to communicate in the best way possible improves relationships, including those in 吃瓜头条. Chapman identifies five different ways love is perceived: words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, gifts, and touch.

Words of Affirmation

吃瓜头条 allows speakers to receive immediate feedback. Evaluators sandwich points to improve on between praise and positive remarks. This is important for all, but especially meaningful for members whose primary love language is words of affirmation. Do your evaluators stay on track or sometimes stray into criticism? Does a member tend to take evaluations too personally? One speaker may not seem to be as appreciative of evaluations as others. Understanding that his or her 鈥渓anguage鈥� is something other than affirmation can be helpful. Appropriate feedback鈥攃omments, laughter, applause鈥攄raws members closer.

Acts of Service

吃瓜头条, area, district, and international officers serve diligently to fulfill their respective missions. Every 吃瓜头条 also relies on its members for acts of service in the form of meeting roles: Toastmaster of the Day, General Evaluator, Ah-Counter, Timer, Grammarian, Table Topicsmaster, and Evaluator. These functions communicate support and encouragement and do so especially to people whose love language is acts of service. These members will also likely volunteer for events and serve their 吃瓜头条s in additional ways. Need a chief judge for a contest? Someone to step in as Sergeant-at-Arms? Members who perceive love by receiving (and providing) acts of service are valuable assets. Recognizing their love language鈥檚 ability to motivate them can foster awareness and appreciation.

Quality Time

Some 吃瓜头条s meet weekly, others biweekly. Some schedule an hour; others extend the agenda to accommodate more speakers. 吃瓜头条 contests and conferences provide additional opportunities for members to spend time together. Members whose love language is quality time will relish every opportunity 吃瓜头条 provides. They will also appreciate things like being asked out for lunch or practicing together for an upcoming contest.

Gifts

Officers may want to 鈥渟peak鈥� to members whose love language is gifts by creating a themed meeting in which members win small gifts for answering related trivia questions. Gifts may be as simple as pieces of candy, but the 吃瓜头条 website also has an extensive selection of gift items for celebrating a member鈥檚 personal achievement or special day.

Certificates for participation in contests may be cherished by members whose language is gifts. While contest trophies don鈥檛 have to be elaborate or expensive, they serve as tangible reminders of a job well done. Some 吃瓜头条s celebrate member birthdays, 吃瓜头条 anniversaries, and national holidays鈥攅xcellent opportunities to exchange small gifts that can make lasting impressions.

Touch

It is always a good idea to ask questions about physical contact and make observations ahead of visiting another 吃瓜头条 so as not to offend anyone. A longtime tradition in 吃瓜头条 includes shaking hands at the lectern, which may be second nature at some 吃瓜头条s, but in others this may not be culturally appropriate. Consider using the folded hands-at-the-heart pose of namaste (a respectful gesture) if physical touch does not appear to be a member鈥檚 love language.

Each 吃瓜头条 and culture can decide what is appropriate but bear in mind that touch is a valid love language. Giving someone a 鈥減at on the back鈥� can be a figure of speech, but members whose love language is touch will respond to an actual pat on the back, cultural norms considered.

Becoming proficient in your own love language is the starting point for better self-awareness and development of communication skills. And the more you learn about words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time, gifts, and touch, the better you will be able to communicate with, lead, and encourage your fellow 吃瓜头条 members.

Based on The 5 Love Languages庐: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman (漏2015). Published by Northfield Publishing. Used with permission.